The Children Who Changed Everything

My eldest is gifted, with a mind that moves faster than the room around him. He can lose himself for hours in something he loves, then come apart completely over something that looks small from the outside but never is. Twice exceptional, like me. I see in him the parts of myself I spent years not understanding. The ones that never fit neatly into a test, but shaped everything anyway.

My youngest lives with selective mutism and deep anxiety. He feels everything. The faintest shift in tone. The smallest hint of disapproval. He carries it in his body long after the moment has passed.

Parenting them has broken open every assumption I ever had about what children need, what “good parenting” looks like, and who I thought I was. It’s also the reason I eventually recognised my own neurodivergence. I went looking for answers for them and found myself in every page I read.

What I Carry With Me

Before I became a mother, I was an occupational therapist. I didn’t work with children. I worked in oncology and palliative care. For close to a decade, I sat with people at the end of their lives. I learnt to read what a body was saying when the words had run out. The tremble of a hand. The way a voice changed when someone spoke of home.

It shaped me in ways I can’t untangle from the kind of mother and writer I am now. It taught me to pay attention to what people need when they can’t always say it. It taught me that the small, tender moments are usually the ones that matter most. And it left me with a quiet, persistent awareness that time is not something we get to keep.

That awareness lives underneath everything I write here. When I write about parenting, I’m not writing from a place of wanting to optimise my children or fix what’s hard. I’m writing from a place of knowing in my bones that this is the part that matters. The kitchen floor conversations. The bedtime questions about death. The mornings where nothing goes to plan but we got through it together.

What This Space Is

Grow with Their Flow is where I write about what I’m learning. About my children, about myself, and about what it means to keep showing up for the people you love when you’re still figuring out your own story.

I write about neurodivergent parenting, autism, late diagnosis, twice-exceptionality, giftedness, ADHD, selective mutism, sensory needs, and the quiet emotional weight of caregiving. I also write about grief, purpose, identity, and the ache of trying to become someone you can recognise.

This is not a place where I have answers. It’s a place where I’m honest about the questions. If you’re looking for polished advice from someone who has it figured out, I’m probably not your person. But if you want to sit with someone who is still in the middle of it, still learning, still trying, then I’m glad you’re here.

You Belong Here If…

You’re raising a child whose wiring the world doesn’t always make room for. Or you’ve received a late diagnosis, and you’re rereading your entire life from the beginning. Or you’re starting to suspect the way you’ve moved through the world isn’t the way most people do, and you’re trying to make sense of that.

Whatever brought you here, you don’t need to have arrived anywhere. You can be in the middle of it, wordless and unsure, and still belong in this room.

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I write under my initial to protect my family’s privacy, particularly my children, who are still young and whose stories are not mine alone to tell.

If you’d rather read before deciding, you can start with Co-Regulation Is Not a Conversation. It begins beside the dying and ends beside my son.

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