Essays on late autism diagnosis, twice exceptionality, and finding meaning in the slow work of neurodivergent parenting.
Featured Essay
Why I Called It “Grow with Their Flow”
It started as a reframe of “go with the flow.” It turned into the way I had to learn to live.
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Where to start
Four entry points, depending on where you are in your life.
For you
If you’re asking whether you might be neurodivergent
Essays on late autism diagnosis, the long road to recognising yourself, and what changes after you know.
Start here: I Went In Expecting ADHD. I Came Out With Autism →
If you’re holding questions about mortality, meaning, and what matters
Reflections from a palliative care and oncology background on mortality, midlife, and finding meaning in the slow work of parenting.
Start here: When Your Neurodivergent Child Asks About Death →
For your child
If typical parenting advice hasn’t worked for your child
Meltdowns that don’t look like tantrums, boundaries held softly, and the parenting books that missed the mark for neurodivergent children.
Start here: The Gift of a Tender Heart →
If your child is bright in some ways and struggling in others
Twice exceptional children: asynchronous development, supporting real strengths alongside real struggles, and why easy things are often the hardest.
Start here: The Wrong Operating System: Being Gifted and Autistic Without Knowing It →
Latest essays
The Disclosure Dilemma — When Telling a School Your Child Is Gifted Feels Like Boasting
May 21, 2026
On telling schools my twice-exceptional son is gifted, when withholding the information began to look less like modesty and more like leaving him in the slow lane.
The Weight I Cannot Put Down — Mothering from Inside the Same Neurotype
May 7, 2026
The diagnosis did not lift the guilt. It only changed its shape.
Meltdowns vs Tantrums: What I Got Wrong for Years, and What I Do Differently Now
April 29, 2026
The afternoons have blurred now. I don’t know if I blocked them out or if this is what memory does when it has been asked to hold too much. What is left is the fog. The school bus pulling up outside our building. The doors opening. Him stepping off. And then, before we had entered …
The Silence Between Knowing and Writing: What Happened After My Late Autism Diagnosis
April 17, 2026
What happened after my late autism diagnosis: five months of silence, post-diagnosis depression, and the body-first way I processed grief before I could write again.
I Didn’t Read Any Autism Books After My Diagnosis: What I Reached for Instead
April 13, 2026
After my late in life autism diagnosis, I didn’t reach for autism books. I returned to books about meaning, suffering, and how to survive loss — books I had read years ago through my palliative care career. The words hadn’t changed. I had.
The Wrong Operating System: Being Gifted and Autistic Without Knowing It
April 7, 2026
What does it mean to be gifted and autistic — and only find out at 40? A personal essay on twice-exceptionality, late autism diagnosis, and the cost of masking.
I Went In Expecting an ADHD Diagnosis. I Came Out With Autism: A Late Diagnosis Story
April 6, 2026
I booked an ADHD assessment. I came out with an autism diagnosis — and giftedness. The full story of my late neurodivergent assessment as an adult woman.
The Demon Marks Were Always Mine: What K-Pop Demon Hunters Taught Me About Late Autism Diagnosis and Self-Acceptance
April 6, 2026
On receiving a late autism diagnosis at 39 — the grief of finally understanding yourself, and what self-acceptance actually looks like when you spent decades not knowing your own marks.
Why I Called It “Grow with Their Flow” — A Late-Diagnosed Autistic Mother’s Origin Story
April 2, 2026
How a blog name born from homeschooling burnout became a metaphor for late autism diagnosis, parenting neurodivergent children, and self-acceptance.
When Your Neurodivergent Child Asks About Death — What I Said, and What I Didn’t
October 23, 2025
My young son asked what happens when I die. A reflection on how to answer the hard questions when you’re raising a deeply sensitive neurodivergent child.
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